Housewives: Submissive or Independent?

The tradition of marriage starts with man and woman accepting and abiding by the following vows: Do you Jane take John to be your lawfully wedding husband and vice verse, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer until death do us part. Yes is said and the sanctity of marriage throughout their lives should be upheld and carried out till death. Womp!!!

The sanctity of marriage today has changed constantly over the years especially now where society influences more and more the different types of marriages that can make people happy today. The "traditional" marriage of man and women happens all the time, but do the roles heavily dictate or help facilitate the marriage?

In a marriage, the struggle for power is always sought. If equal, then the co-spouses will function fine. If not problems and abuse can arise. Like many marriages anywhere, abuse is taboo unless seen and heard. In a article called" Why do People Blame Victims of Abuse? The Role of Sterotypes of Women on Perceptions of Blame ", researchers found that traditional housewives suffer less abuse  when they are submissive to their husbands and their actions because their more "warm". Non-traditional women who are outspoken and competent are more likely to respond and react to abuse which enables it.

This study was conducted with 118 Midwestern college students depicting a scenario of a married couple "John and Sue". Manipulating the gender roles without participants knowing e. g.  income for men and women and domestic roles, results showed that non-traditional women suffered more because of how they responded to the to perpretrator and the provocation that preceeded it.

After reading this and having a thought, all I could think is, perception gives reason to provocation which gives power. Say that three times!

References:
Arriaga, B. Zemenia. Cappeza, M. Nicole. " Why do People Blame Victims of Abuse? The Role of Sterotypes of Women on Perceptions of Blame". Sex Roles. 2008. Vol 59. P839-850.
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